July 16, 2008

"He went to Jared's..."

Mouths, hands, sit down, have a seat, thank you for your time, do you want to pay in cash or credit ? We've just spent another pile of cash, but the tents will be there, they're ours. How many will be attending? How much do you need? Do you want this deal or that one? Okay, more cash on the table, but we've got the food. The list is getting checked off, the money's adding up. That special day, the day of the wedding is being built from the ground up. Everyone always says "Oh weddings can be so expensive", but we forget that the reception can be a bigger bill. You keep telling yourself, "The cost doesn't matter, it's our special day", but how much is too much. I'm excited, she's excited, I'm stressed, she's stressed, we agree to just enjoy the day. It's so hard in this day and age to really plan a wedding without a lot of stress involved. Not only do you have to consider the enormous cost of it all, you've got to send out invitation and hope everyone shows(because you're paying for all that food and seating), you've got to make sure that the ceremony is well planned enough that everyone is where they're supposed to be, figure out what, how much, and who's doing what with the music, write up those vows(or at least figure out which ones you're going to use, there are a million different variations now), and this to-do-list goes on and on, without end in site.

The thing is though, it's all worth it, there is no higher step in a relationship than marriage. But, don't let the details ruin it for you, as many people do. They get so into the planning of it all, they forget why they're getting married and by the time it's all over they're just staring at each other, wondering what just happened.

Marriage is a sacred thing, no matter what religion you belong to(or don't belong to). It's that day when you become one with your partner for life, the day you lock your two souls together forever.

So, if you find yourself making the wedding planning more important than the wedding itself, STOP, take a deep breath, and think about why you wanted to get married in the first place. Most of us would say that we're getting married because we're in love with our significant other, so make that special day about that, not about how much money you spent or how elaborate of a cake you ordered.

The work involved in getting it all together should be an important bonding experience for you and your other, it should teach you to work together, make decisions together, and believe in each other. True love, like the planning of your marriage, is going to sometimes be stressful, a lot of work, and you're going to have to learn to work together through life. There will be times that you feel like you hate you're love, but true love is making the choice to love that person even if you don't feel like it all the time. Love isn't supposed to be easy all the time, the trials that are faced in a relationship that holds true love are all a part of spending the rest of your life with that one.

All in all, I think the very fact that you've found true love is worth all the work, stress and money. True love is invaluable, and if you really love that person deep down, all the trials should be worth it for you too.